“Let’s always be happy.”
There is an important thing you should consider before confessing your love to someone you have a crush on. It is the ‘cost’ that must be spent to enjoy the benefit of happiness. It is not a story about money. The cost of love is nothing but emotions. The feelings of yours and your partner’s. if you have forgotten this fact, you better remember this.
# Love has emotions to pay
There is nothing free in the world. In order to roll a piece of small and cute pink macaroons over your tongue, it is a life to pay a few bills worth that amount. Whether you’re watching your favorite Marvel movies, or eating famous pasta with mushrooms with friends, you pay for it to get a little happiness.
But we often forget this natural law that we must incur the cost when dealing with a loved one. I forget the providence of the world at the most important moment that I have to pay the right cost to enjoy the benefits.
When you are dating or in love, you often get angry moments. For example, your partner is too kind to your friends. You girl even smiles at your friends. ‘wait, you smile at my friends?’
your conventional ways to deal with the situations like this.
Step 1 - Let’s chill,,, just take it easy
Step 2 – She could do that I understand
Step 3 – Let’s talk for a second
There are 2 possible responses that your partner might have after hearing “let’s talk for a second” from you. It’s either “Why? what happened?” or “Ha,, why suddenly start again?” The first response is not a problem. Whether your talk with partner will get solved or friend and roasted, you can at least spit out the story you want to tell your partner. At least, some negative emotions can be resolved. “I will never smile at your friends anymore”, a secret agreement between you and your partner may be made.
The problem is the second response, “why start again?” A word with a secrete power that cuts off all your feelings and makes you lose your energy. You can hear your partner making a sigh aggressively. You think that if anyone listens to your partner, the person might think that your partner is such an artist full of agony going around head. Although you are just trying to speak out the topic after considering it for a long time, you get embarrassed that you think you have done something wrong and eventually you will not be able to talk it out with partner.
Why starting again all of the sudden? It is a kind of declaration of your partner that “I will not have any conversation with you”. It means I only want to listen to a beautiful word, a friendly word, or a gentle world from you and enjoy the convenience of it. It’s nothing but seems like a mindset of a thief. The similar expression would be “I am tired, do you have to do it now? Or “let’s talk about it later”.
I want to tell something for those who always throw a word like “suddenly start again?. Love is not a salmon that you should not eat it raw, the comfort when you grab the hand of a loved one, the happiness when you face the eyes of a loved one, the heat when you open a heated discussion with your partner about each other’s values of life, and the sense of security that your partner will stay on your side even if the world goes to a doom. There is so much happiness and preciousness in love and you want to enjoy it for free?
You should open your ears when your partner wants to talk to you or even when complains. Listening to the loved one’s jealousy and disappointment is a ‘cost’ for the happiness of love. Let’s keep in my that love has emotions to pay. Love is a deal that buys the happiness of everyday bearing a few battles with a loved one.
# There is always a hidden ‘cost’ in happy love
Wait, your love is always happy? You never had a fight? Congratulations first. The possibility is either one. One possibility is that you guys are born to be together with each other like a destiny out of one in six billion of the probability. It’s a miraculous. I recommend marriage.
The other is the likelihood that a loved one is a benevolent love, sacrificing everything for you and tailoring it for you. I dare to assume that the latter possibility is higher than the likelihood of the first one. It means that one side is likely to be spending and incurring all the costs alone.
A loved one is night fighting with you because you guys are a perfect match. A loved one is giving everything away because a loved one loves you so much. There is a high possibility that a loved one is doing the mental discipline in order not to cause troubles and in order to understand and understand you. The cost is constantly being spent or incurred by your partner and it’s just not visible though. The cost is constantly being spent or incurred unilaterally.
There is no love that only has the benefits of the love and is only convenient. Keep in mind that if you are happy every day means a loved one may be incurring a huge amount of the emotional expenditure ,including yours, alone. To put it mildly, it is exploitation. Emotional Exploitation. This sort of one-sided love eventually leads to a catastrophe. When one side, who has always incurred the cost of the emotions, has no more emotions to consume anymore. Sudden break-up will come.
Before you encounter the catastrophe, let’s have a smile on your loved one now that it’s not too late. Ask your partner if he/she has not had any difficulties or troubles while having a relationship with you. If a lover throws a sigh, do not refute it and just listen. That’s when your love becomes ‘together’.